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Rage, anger and social media #2

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/the-switch/wp/2017/10/09/russian-operatives-used-twitter-and-facebook-to-target-veterans-and-military-personnel-study-says/?utm_term=.98b12c19cb22&wpisrc=nl_tech&wpmm=1

Your rage can be used to control and direct you.  I noticed a certain attitude amongst those currently serving that I could not understand at the time.  This fills in the blanks.

Years ago someone used my rage over years to manipulate my behavior very successfully.  It was only much later that I realized this.  I remember being in a meeting discussing abuse and realizing that no one present had encountered that.

Social media companies are VERY good at analyzing your behavior and feeding you information.  Know this, and have a plan.

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Rage, anger and social media

https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2017/oct/05/smartphone-addiction-silicon-valley-dystopia

I have found the last year much harder as a result of social media and my response to it. As I was pondering that, I saw the above article.  It is worth considering how much time we spend in places designed to distract or anger us and take us away from thought.

While I am still working on my path, I think controlling the amount of time we spend on social media is a good start.  I am not suggesting you walk away entirely, but consider how you let such things affect you.

Read

Run

Walk the dog

Talk to a friend

 

Do not let their desire to sell you advertising to invade your inner garth.  Do not give others such power over you.

The Resurgence of Old School Hate

http://bigstory.ap.org/article/a8ed212468c741eb993609cd480efe21/ku-klux-klan-dreams-rising-again-150-years-after-founding

Obviously, Neo-Nazi groups are more of an immediate identification issue with heathens but we need to be aware of all hate groups and their influence. I also feel we have to view history with a national lens, which means Americans need to accept our own history.  On that side, I highly recommend the recent film: The Free State of Jones. It is a different narrative than what we are often taught.  A good article on the history of the event is here:

http://www.smithsonianmag.com/history/true-story-free-state-jones-180958111/?no-ist

Depression, PTSD and Suicide

If a friend is hurting, and you know, try as hard as you can to reach out and lift them a bit. You may not get another chance. I know it can be very hard to tell sometimes, but try if you can. It is worth the effort.

You will regret it more if you never try.  Sometimes people are so deep that they cannot be reached, but you won’t know if you do not try.

Mass Murder and Men

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2016/06/toxic-masculinity-and-mass-murder/486983/

The article is a bit too vague for my tastes but raises a point I have made elsewhere.  These attacks are mostly made by men choosing lethal means to express dominance and rage.  At some point, men (and those in their lives) need to accept this and find better answers.

Your ego CANNOT be so fragile that you think striking or killing someone for a slight is acceptable.

“Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.”

http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/188039-men-are-afraid-that-women-will-laugh-at-them-women

We have been taught forms of masculinity that lead to violent existential crises. That has to stop.  No, that will not fix everything.  It will fix some things.

It also ties back to this: https://facingthefireswithin.wordpress.com/2016/06/15/how-a-record-of-abuse-might-point-further/

How a record of abuse might point further

I write about abuse and the victims.  It may turn out that being an abuser is a warning sign of darker future actions.  In that case, we need to be more aware of this and find ways for local municipalities to better deal with such problems.

Hail Freya, words well said

In Orlando Florida, the Pulse nightclub was getting ready to celebrate Latin night, but it was not to be. Omar Mateen had other plans. An American born of refugee parents, he came to Pulse with the intention of killing as many gay men as possible, answering the call of ISIS to do so during Ramadan. […]

via Taking the Pulse of Hatred — mainer74